I was originally going to post one of my monthly “currently” post today, but I’m having a bad day and I figured some of you might be, too. We’re only human. Mine is probably from lack of sleep and a very long day yesterday where I finished a book edit, submitted something that will likely change my life, and prepared for the future.
Today is one of those days where everything is upsetting me, likely for no good reason. The kids and my husband are pushing my last nerves, I’m stressed out about some work stuff (I have a phone interview today for a freelancing job with a marketing firm in NYC), and since I already have anxiety, little things that normally don’t push my buttons are.
Just a bad day.
I usually try to look for the positive side of things, but that doesn’t always work. When it doesn’t, I look to these tips (which are tried and true).
Tips to get through a bad day:
- Listen to a good playlist. I literally have a playlist titled “Bad Day.” I’m not one of those people who is helped by cheerful music when I’m feeling down (I need some good, depressing, soulful music), so I try to find things I can relate to when the day isn’t going my way. A few of my favorites are right now “Vienna” by Billy Joel, “Hold My Heart” by Sara Bareilles, and “When The Fog Rolls In” by Train. You can follow me and my playlists on Spotify.
- Do some yoga. If yoga isn’t your thing, exercise in a way that is. I go to yoga on Tuesdays and Thursdays so thankfully it happens to work out that today is my bad day. Yoga is said to reduce stress, lower your blood pressure, and lower your heart rate. I also bet there are studies out there that talk about the yoga high I definitely get each time I leave a practice. There’s nothing like it.
- Eat junk food. There is an extremely high probability that this tip isn’t backed by health and science, but whatever. I made homemade fudge brownies last night (my favorite recipe here) and I’ve been picking at them all morning. Sometimes you’ve just gotta binge.
- Read a book. Escape reality. Calm your mind and give yourself something to think about other than the negatives. My favorite way to find new books and recommendations is through Goodreads. I’m reading some new ones right now, but my favorite books are:
- Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
- The Secret History by Donna Tartt
- Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table by Shauna Niequist
- Journal. Or write in a diary. Whatever you want to call it. This might sound expected (seeing as I’m a writer), but when I’m really sad or really angry or feeling a bit torn, I write. I keep a document on my computer where I jot down everything from letters to people who have hurt me to short poems to pages full of word vomit. The last bit reminds me of yoga and meditation. I let the thoughts flow through me, acknowledge them, and watch them leave.
- Meditate. While I was pregnant with Isla I suffered from horrible anxiety attacks all throughout my second trimester. I would sit in my car before going into work in what was practically a full panic for reasons I didn’t know (hormones, probably). I don’t know how I came across it, but I found Headspace. This app talks you through guided meditation. This was better (for me) than anything else–medication, therapy, bitching to someone on the phone. I only used the free trial, but I am very interested in the subscription, too.
- Airplane mode. I feel like this not only applies to my phone, but also to my day. When I’m feeling down, hearing my phone go off frequently and or feeling obligated to respond to people only makes it worse. I usually switch my phone to Airplane mode or Do Not Disturb (keep in mind that notifications still come through with Do Not Disturb–just silently). Additionally, I do best with taking some time for myself.
If all else fails, a big glass of wine doesn’t.
How do you get through a bad day? Let me know!