- Link to the person who nominated you. (Thanks for nominating me, Qué Milegro!)
- Add the award logo.
- Answer the questions your nominator asked.
- Nominate 7 other blogs.
- Ask your nominees 10 questions.
And the nominees are the following great blogs:
Why did you decide to start blogging? More specifically, what are you trying to accomplish/who are you trying to reach through your blog?
I used to have another blog that I wrote on for years, but when I figured out that a lot of what I blogged about was nonsense, I wanted a fresh start. I had recently found out my husband and I were expecting a baby, and so Comfort & Chaos was born (check out my first post). I wouldn’t say this blog was necessarily created to document my journey to and through motherhood, but it’s sort of become that and more over the past year and a half or so. As far as what I’m trying to accomplish and who I’m trying to reach, I wouldn’t really say there’s a goal there. I want to be candid and I want to speak my mind, and I don’t hate it when other people come to read my blog and can relate what I’m writing about to their own lives. No real audience in mind, just whoever enjoys reading or feels like they gain something from reading the blog. It’s also nice to be able to look back on how I was feeling at a particular time or what was going on in my life. After chasing a one year old around all day, my memory of details isn’t what it used to be.
What has been the most rewarding thing about writing/blogging for you?
My favorite thing about blogging, hands down, is when I receive a message or a comment or an email from a reader saying they loved or appreciated what I wrote about. This doesn’t happen too often (not all my posts were created to tug at heart strings), but it feels SO good when it does. I also really love being able to look back and see how I felt on particular days. Not sure why. Maybe I should keep a journal.
Name three physical features that you know make you beautiful.
Questions like this always make me feel awkward because, as women, we are conditioned to feel awkward when talking about things we like about ourselves. But here we go. My favorite things about myself, physically, are my eyes, my skin (usually, though it’s been whack lately…thanks, birth control), and my legs. When I’m doing yoga is when I feel my most beautiful and that I’m at my best. Oddly enough, I never have makeup on when I’m doing yoga, my hair is generally a mess, and I’m in workout clothes.
Name three non-physical attributes that you know make you MORE beautiful.
1. I think I am a really, really good mom. Nothing makes me feel more beautiful or better about myself than this. I think a lot of moms would probably say this. I love Isla more than I’ve ever loved anything or anyone in my life, and at the moment (though I know she’s only one), I feel I do my best to help her feel independent yet secure, loved yet (mostly) not smothered, and fun yet serious when necessary. Just being her mom makes me feel so incredible every day.
2. When I care about something or someone, I really about them. I put my all into the relationship or friendship, often even if that person does something to hurt me, though maybe that’s a fault. It makes me feel good about myself knowing I put my best effort in with people I love almost all the time.
3. Dom would probably say this is a fault, but I really appreciate in myself that when I want to know something or learn something, I go above and beyond to do just that. I feel smart and resourceful and I LOVE when someone asks me a question or needs something and I can provide that information or whatever it is that they’re looking for for them. I feel incredible in those moments.
What is an experience that you know changed you forever?
A typical answer for a mom, but I can definitely say it was the day I had Isla, though not just because I became her mom. After an incredibly difficult labor, delivery, and postpartum recovery for a multitude of reasons, I feel like I overcame the biggest challenge of my life so far. From the day I went into labor to several months after having her, I was finally taught that I can’t always be in control. This was SUCH a huge lesson for me, and one that I needed to learn. As someone who has always been a complete, total control freak, I learned during this time that things will work out even if I don’t have any say in what’s going on. Another big experience for me was when breastfeeding didn’t work out. When I was pregnant, I knew with zero doubt that I would breastfeed until Isla was at least one. I thought that’s what good moms did, and without a doubt, I wanted to be a good mom. Little did I know, the universe had other plans for me and another lesson in control. I think this lesson ended up making me a better mom and a more patient person.
What are your top two baby girl and baby boy names (and if you already have kids, you can’t use the names you already named them!)?
Well, obviously Isla, but since I can’t use that… My favorite names change pretty often and I’ve literally had a list of baby names on my phone for probably 4-6 years (#crazy). Currently, my favorite girls names are Rory and Marnie, and my favorite boy names are Sebastian and Ezra. I should probably avoid pop culture for awhile.
What is one of your quirks/eccentricities?
Practically obsessive compulsive research on true crime. And I wonder why I have nightmares. I could research murder/rape/kidnapping crimes for days and not get sick of them. In addition to my own research, I love almost any and all movies, shows, books, articles, etc. in this genre. It’s weird, I know.
What would be your dream job (independently wealthy not being an option)?
Oh jeeze… This is one to think about, and I’m not sure I can narrow it down. For years and years, I wanted to be a Communication Studies professor, but that dream died when I went to Clemson for grad school and hated it with such a burning passion that I couldn’t even bear staying in the field any longer. I think what I would love most in the world would be owning my own coffee shop. My sister and I have spoken about this for years, her being the brains behind the financing, and me doing the managing and chatting up customers all day long, obviously. Since we live in different states and this dream can’t happen for a very long while, I’m enjoying my other dream job: being a stay-at-home mom.
Describe yourself using one word, then explain why you chose that word.
Content. For years, I always wanted to be something and someone I wasn’t. I made [a lot] of mistakes, probably hurt a lot of people, and I was hurt quite a bit myself by people I loved and cared about. I wasn’t half as nice as I could have and should have been, not a quarter as patient I wanted to be, and I could never quite settle down or feel comfortable with where I was at in my life. It’s taken a lot of obstacles and experiences to feel good in my own skin, and as stated before, I’ve had to make a lot of mistakes to realize how happy I am with my life and the people who are in it. And while I was never completely and totally happy with my body, becoming a mom changed that…which is sort of odd since that’s been the biggest change my body has ever experienced, good or bad. While not every day is 100% and I’m sure there are days that all the above mentioned issues come to light again, I am incredibly happy and content with where I am. There is honestly nothing more I could want at the moment.
Which household chore do you wish you could get away with never having to do again? Toilets. And cleaning the bathtub/shower. Basically, I hate cleaning bathrooms.
And now, 10 questions for my nominees:
1. When did you last sing to yourself? What was the song? When did you last sing to someone else?
2. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
3. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
4. What is your most treasured memory?
5. Where would you go in a time machine? Would you stay?
6. Name a book or song that has changed your life.
7. Are you usually late, early, or right on time?
8. If you had to pick a new first name, what would it be? Why?
9. What are your three most prized possessions? (Objects, not people.)
10. Describe your first kiss.